The purpose of Transformation: A Different Approach is twofold. The first is to present enough facts and science to prove you can change, that the capacity to change is built into your brain.
The second thing the facts demonstrate is that the skills you currently use to manage your relationships, emotions, and make choices, are not “who” you are. They are simply skills you learned during your first 1000 days.
The lessons in the course contain the information and evidence for updating those skills. They can teach you how to make better choices, be a better participant in relationships, and think in ways that do not create the chaos of uncontrolled emotions.
This moment, and the ones that follow, can be different.
Your brain already knows the processes that facilitate learning and creating new habits. Your brain already has created a huge number of “successful” habits. The systems for change already exist.
I believe over 95% of our anxiety, angst, and anger are the results of how we make choices, how we relate to each other and our environment, and how we create and govern our negative emotions.
Our life is the expression of our current skills. Improving our skills improves our abilities.
It is fairly obvious that Math, Language, and Driving are skills. We are taught how they work and we practice them until we develop a degree of competence. After some time our level of ability to use them becomes a subconscious habit and we perform the functions without even thinking about how they work.
It may not be nearly so obvious that the following are also skills.
The difference between the first group of skills and this list of skills is simple. For Math, Language, and Driving we are taught standardized rules and practice them under supervision until we meet a recognized level of competence. In the case of driving, we pass a driving test and obtain a license to operate a vehicle.
For the skills on the second list we make up our own rules. We observe our parents, friends, family, teachers, preachers and television celebrities, examples in our EG, and use our conclusions about how we think they use these skills to create our own rules. We then practice the rules we made up until they become subconscious habits.
The incredible number of emotional and relationship problems that arise from our use of the skills we taught ourselves show us our own rules are frequently incorrect. There are rules, however, for the skills on the list that can empower us to attain the same quality results in our relationships as we do in Math, Language, and Driving.
This part of the course contains the Concepts and Procedures for repairing or replacing life skills you learned as a toddler
Estimated Time: However long it takes
Transformation: Steps on the Path