Our parts in the Process of Transformation
My Part in this process
To show you how to do a skill better, I must explain the updated skill, and how it will empower you to create better outcomes than the ones you are getting now.
I must be able to show you how to do the skill, and explain every step in the process.
The lessons must enable you to imagine yourself performing all the steps you need to realize the benefit.
When your early efforts succeed in producing some improvement, a feedback loop will be established that encourages you to practice more.
Continuing to practice, and enjoying better results, leads you to eventual mastery.
Your Part in this process
Seriously consider the information presented, and do the skill the way it is presented. DO NOT expect to be an expert in one lesson.
The British Cycling team instituted an improvement process they call “Marginal Gains.” The concept is simple. Change things ONE PERCENT at a time. They changed a few things at a time and won the Tour de France. Changing a life takes time and practice.
In some things you will see nearly immediate progress. In others, it will take more practice to change your habits.
DO NOT expect those close to you to notice the difference immediately. They won’t see them because that is the way their brain is working. They are not looking for change. They are looking at you, as they have become accustomed to knowing you.
It may happen instantly as it did for a student who had road rage one day and not the next. His wife was amazed when he was cut off in traffic and did not explode as he usually did. When she asked him why he didn’t, he simply responded, “Why should I?”
Study the lessons and do the skills the new way. Evaluate your internal sense about the process. Do you “feel” better? Are the outcomes more in line with your intentions?
The essence of transformation is not learning how to make better decisions, it is learning how to quit making the bad ones.