The purpose of Transformation: A Different Approach was twofold. The first was to present enough facts and science to prove you can change, that the capacity to change is built into our brain.
The second thing the facts demonstrate is that the skills you currently use are not who you are. They are simply skills you learned during the first 1000 days of your existence. You cannot change or understand what happened to you as a tiny child so forgive yourself.
What you can do is learn how to make better choices, be a better participant in relationships, and think in ways that do not create the chaos of uncontrolled emotions.
This moment, and the ones that follow, can be different.
Your brain already knows the processes that facilitate learning and creating new habits. Your brain already has created a huge number of “successful” habits. The systems for change already exist.
I believe over 95% of our anxiety, angst, and anger are the results of how we make choices, how we relate to each other and our environment, and how we create and govern our negative emotions.
Our life is the expression of our current skills. Improving our skills improves our abilities.
The incredible number of emotional and relationship problems that arise from our use of the skills we taught ourselves show us our own rules are frequently incorrect. There are rules, however, for the skills on the list that can empower us to attain much closer to the same quality results in our relationships as we do in Math, Language, and Driving.
This part of the course will teach you how to repair or replace life skills you learned as a toddler