FIVE SECONDS to Less Stress
Why you should read this. About 3 minutes
According to a Harvard study, we waste 46.9% of our waking hours each day thinking about negative junk, and it interferes with our lives. We throw away almost EIGHT HOURS every day we could be using to pursue our hopes, dreams, and plans.
Stress is not what you have been told. The Stress Eliminator will give you the concepts and procedures to understand what stress really is, and a “tool” you can use to eliminate 80-90% of the “bad” stress in your life in 5 Seconds, or Less.
The Stress Eliminator is also a great productivity booster. The same brain processes are at work when your focus wanders as when you are feeling stressed. Using it will help you regain and maintain your focus, get your work done quicker, and have more free time.
FIVE SECONDS to Less Stress
It is amazing to see how the definitions for stress have changed over time. In his original paper, published in 1936, Hans Selye defined stress as “the body’s non-specific reaction to any demand for change.”
By the 1960s psychologists and psychiatrists were focused on negative emotional states as the source of stress. Dr. Richard Lazarus defined psychological stress as a “particular relationship between the person and environment that is appraised by the person as taxing or exceeding his or her resources and endangering his or her wellbeing.”
Over a course of 30 years, stress had changed from any demand for change to something we perceive as an overwhelmingly threatening emotion that comes from our perceived inability to handle a situation.
This later definition is the one we have been conditioned to believe defines stress. It is a really disempowering definition. It keeps us locked in the belief we are helpless to do anything about it other than distract ourselves from the things that are stressing us. Any website about stress will offer you basically the same advice about what you should do, AFTER you figure out you are stressed.
Their tips all say stress can be managed by regular exercise, meditation or other relaxation techniques, structured timeouts, seeking support from loved ones, or learning new coping strategies.
All these tips tell you to do something other than what you are stressing about and you will feel better. And they are all exactly right. You will feel better, temporarily. But the distracting activities actually have nothing to do with what is causing you stress, do they?
If we accept the original definition of stress, “any demand for change,” as a fact and as the actual definition of the concept we call stress, we are immediately more empowered than we were a couple minutes ago. We now have a working definition. There are of course a huge number of different kinds and levels of demands and stresses or stressors, but understanding the concept empowers us to create procedures for managing those “demands.” And, having better skills will enable us to manage the demands better.
Selye made the point, and the experts all agree, that there is always some stress in our lives. He repeatedly reminded his audiences that even while we are sleeping there is stress. Our heart keeps beating and we keep breathing. While we are dreaming, our adrenal glands are busy putting our hormones. He says the only human that has no stress is a dead one.
Stress should be considered simply as work the body must do, or the wear and tear on our body.
Good Stress The demands for change that we interpret as emotionally positive, or demands we like, create in us “good” feelings, and these he termed “eustress.” This is the kind of stress we enjoy.
Bad Stress The demands for change that we interpret emotionally negative, or demands we don’t like, create in us “bad” feelings, and these he termed “distress.” This is the type of stress that harms us the most, and destroys our health.
Both distress and eustress cause wear and tear on our bodies. Both can lead to exhaustion and damage to our bodies.
However, and it is a huge however, our cerebral cortex can quickly, certainly, and easily distinguish the difference between spending a lazy Sunday afternoon doing something you enjoy, or having a root canal.
Some distressing events we cannot avoid. Loved ones move away, or die. We lose our job. We break a bone. We become ill. Those things we cannot avoid, but we can learn to keep them in perspective.
The Course will teach you a simple technique that can eliminate 80-90% of your distress in less than 5 seconds.
© Douglas McKee 2017